All relationships require work. But what I’ve learnt in my 21 years of experience is that it’s always the discrete and subtle acts of love, and not the grand declarations, that can keep a relationship strong. Here are 10 easy ways of being the happy couple you always aspired to be:
Always sleep just an inch or less apart
You would be surprised to know that there are actually some scientific benefits to spooning. Some researchers from University of Hertfordshire found in a study that 94 percent of couples who were touching or nearly touching each other while sleeping reported being happy and content with their relationship, while only 68 percent of couples that sleep with a distance in between reported being happy.
Discuss the good things
Every couple can use a bit of positive reinforcement. According to Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., relationship expert, and author of 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great,“ Many couples only talk about what’s wrong in their relationship, but research has found that couples who focus on what’s working are much happier over time than those who try to purely ‘fix’ their problems.”
Is the sex good? Do you communicate really well? Come up with a list of the top five things that are going great in your relationship and work together towards strengthening those qualities.
Display simple acts of kindness
Extravagant dinners, exotic trips, expensive jewelry, and surprise parties- all of these things can be pretty amazing. But these grand romantic gestures can never be as valuable as the small acts of love, whether it’s watching their favorite TV show even though you have little to no interest in it or leaving them surprise notes jus to let them know how much you love them.